For Men With ADHD — and Those Who Love Them
Men with ADHD may bring unique challenges to a relationship — career shame, emotional dysregulation, and anger are a few common sticking points. Learn how both partners in a relationship can recognize these symptoms of ADD, and work through them together.
From Love Bombing to Boredom: Is ADHD to Blame for Mercurial Relationship Cycles?
What is love bombing? For some adults with ADHD, it looks like this: We meet someone new, fall madly in love, and sweep them away with our obsessive attention, then lose interest when the thrill fades. This cycle is not present in most relationships touched by ADHD, but it does impact a population of ADDitude readers, some of whom share their stories here.
"I Have ADHD. I Need Support."
"Assigning blame. Exerting control. Arguing. Giving up. All my life, this unhealthy pattern has scarred my relationships but it has never, ever worked to change my attention deficit disorder behaviors. Because it simply can’t. Because disapproval is not a cure for #ADHD." This is a must-read.
How to Best Support Your Partner with ADHD
“I know that I’ve used many strategies very successfully over the years to help my #ADHD clients. But I also know that it can be almost impossible to use those same techniques with the person you are intimately and emotionally bound to.”
How ADHD Affects Relationships
We surveyed more than 700 partners with #ADHD to find out how attention deficit impacts their marriage — from their side, not just their spouses’. We learned that while the challenges are many, respondents are deeply committed to strengthening their relationships.
“I’m the ADHD Spouse. And These 6 Lessons Have Fortified My Marriage.”
“I learned the hard way that my emotional state almost always affects the situation at hand. When I think back to life’s most unpleasant experiences – the runaway feelings, emotions, body sensations, and all – I realize that the trigger event is never as unpleasant as the thoughts that carry me away.”
How to Stop Avoiding Social Interaction
Many of us have been deeply hurt, and as a result, we pull away from people in our lives. But connection is powerful, and we don't deserve to miss out. Read these 13 ideas for bringing more connection into your life. As @DrHallowell says, "Take heart. Hearts heal."
“You’re Not Listening!” How ADHD Impulsivity and Insecurity Broke (Then Saved) My Relationships
“I suffer from an irresistible desire to jump in and finish people’s sentences, particularly when my anxiety spikes are coupled with a strong compulsion to be liked. It turns out I wasn’t really engaging with people at all those cocktail parties; I just spent decades holding an audience hostage until my glass was empty.”
An Open Letter to My Husband
I have ADHD. You don’t. We don’t always speak the same language, which is no one’s fault — but it’s a stumbling block for our relationship nonetheless. Here are 27 heartfelt requests that I can’t always articulate but wish I could. #ADHD
We Need to Talk About How ADHD Affects Interpersonal Relationships
Interpersonal relationships define and fulfill us. But for those of us with ADHD, our symptoms can negatively impact our friends and spouses. While we know how ADHD can affect our ability to focus, remember, and get things done, we rarely talk about ADHD’s impact on our ability to create and maintain connections –– and that needs to change.
"If You Love Me, Please Take This Seriously"
We don’t mean to hurt you. But we do — again and again. You feel like screaming, pulling out your hair, or lying in bed and crying, “When will she get it? Will this ever stop?” I don’t have all the answers, but I do know that if you love someone with ADHD you need to read this with an open mind.
Save the Date! Dating Advice & Strategies for Adults with ADHD
Navigating the dating world can be complicated, challenging, and nerve-wracking, especially for those with ADHD. Regardless of your dating experience, here’s some all-around relationship advice you might just love. #ADHD #ADHDdating
"My Undiagnosed ADHD Inflamed My Sister’s Depression — and I Blamed Her for It"
ADHD and depression mix like gasoline and fire. My undiagnosed ADD exacerbated my sister's mood disorder. I was bossy and mean. She was submissive and sad — the target of my recklessness. Will I ever forgive myself for breaking her heart?