For those who pay "child support" ordered by court, If you think your menial $500 a month covers ever expense of raising a child, you are a loser! Why not offer up some extra without having to be told, ordered or begged for it? It is your child and your responsibility! Well, that may actually cut into your money you use to impress your girlfriend and her child(ren). Your child should always come first, as they were there first and you have a true obligation to them.