If it's not making you better, it isn't love. True love makes you more of who you are, not less. - Mandy Hale (If thats the case i think i must only be capable of 'loving' myself. I always lose who i am in the place of girlfriend or lover.
You are amazing unique and beautiful . There is nothing more you need to be. Do or have in order to be happy. You are perfect just as you are. So smile give love and enjoy every moment of this precious life.